30 Sep Building Self-Esteem and Confidence in Children with ADHD
Some ways to help children with ADHD build self-esteem and confidence
Raising a child with ADHD can be both rewarding and challenging. These kids are often creative, energetic, and full of ideas, but they also face difficulties that can chip away at their self-esteem and confidence. As a parent, caregiver, or teacher, it’s essential to help them build a positive self-image and a sense of confidence that will carry them through their lives.
Understanding the Challenges
Children with ADHD often struggle with tasks that come easily to their peers, like paying attention in class, following instructions, or sitting still for long periods. They might hear a lot of negative feedback from teachers, classmates, and even family members, which can make them feel like they’re always falling short. Over time, this can lead to feelings of frustration, inadequacy, and low self-worth. But, with the right support and strategies, you can help your child develop a strong sense of self-esteem and confidence.
Focus on Strengths
Every child has strengths and talents, and children with ADHD are no different. They might excel in creative pursuits like art, music, or storytelling. They could be natural problem solvers or have a gift for making others laugh. It’s important to recognise and celebrate these strengths. When your child sees that they’re good at something, it boosts their confidence. Encourage your child to pursue activities they enjoy and are good at. Whether it’s sports, music, or a particular hobby, finding something they can succeed in will help them feel more positive about themselves.
Set Realistic Goals
This is extremely important. Children with ADHD often face challenges with organisation and time management, which can make schoolwork and other tasks seem overwhelming. Helping your child set realistic, achievable goals can make a big difference. Break tasks into smaller steps and celebrate each small victory along the way. This teaches your child that they can accomplish their goals with effort and perseverance.
For example, if your child struggles with homework, try breaking it down into shorter sessions with breaks in between. Praise their efforts, not just the final result. Let them know that it’s okay to make mistakes as long as they keep trying. Importantly, because children learn by example, ensure that this focus on process and effort becomes part of your family culture.
Provide Positive Reinforcement
Positive reinforcement is a powerful tool for building self-esteem. Children with ADHD often hear a lot about what they’re doing wrong, so make a point to highlight what they’re doing right. This could be something as simple as acknowledging when they’ve remembered to put their shoes away or when they’ve been kind to a friend.
Make sure your praise is genuine. Telling your child that they are “awesome” several times a day means that the praise begins to lose power. Your child knows you will say that to them because you are their parent, and you would just say that anyway.
Therefore, make sure your praise is specific. Instead of just saying, “Good job,” try something like, “I’m really proud of how you stayed focused on your homework today.” This kind of feedback helps your child see that their efforts are no9ced and appreciated. Importantly, remember that it is not essential to provide praise for all the things your child does. More important that praise, is letting your child know that you have noticed them. If you do praise, make sure you mean it and that your praise is specific and genuine. For example, instead of just saying, “Good job,” try something like, “I noticed that you stayed focused on your homework today.” And, even more important than the words you say, it is important that you genuinely mean it, that you use a warm voice tone and that you are not multi-tasking as you say this. This kind of feedback helps your child see that their efforts are noticed and appreciated.
Be Patient and Supportive
Building self-esteem and confidence takes time, especially for children with ADHD. Be patient with your child and offer your support every step of the way. Let them know that you believe in them, even when things are tough.
Your child might face more challenges than their peers, but with your guidance and encouragement, they can develop a strong sense of self-worth that will help them navigate those challenges with resilience and confidence. Remember, your belief in them can make all the difference.
If you would like to have a conversation further on how to navigate this, please contact us at Prosper Health Collective for further information on 6381 0071.
