08 Dec Navigating uncomfortable party conversation
When I think of Christmas, I think of a festive season surrounded by people, parties, and food. Whilst an anticipated time with family and friends, conversations around the table can sometimes be uncomfortable. For example, when a family member probe for information around major life decision you may not be ready to share.
Here are some tips to navigate uncomfortable conversations this holiday:
Know your needs. During this busy season, be mindful of your needs and avoid over extending yourself. Your sleep, making sure you are eating well, and physical activity for example, are important factors to consider as a lack of which may put you in a position more vulnerable to emotional reactivity.
Cope ahead. If there are some conversational topics you feel uncomfortable around, have a think about what they are. This allows you the opportunity to decide ahead of time (and perhaps practice if needed) how you would like to address the question, and how much details you might want to include.
If you anticipate the social gathering to be a challenging one, think about who are some people who can be your social supports. Having a close friend or your partner know how they might support you during the gathering can be helpful when you feel overwhelmed. For example, a special look or gesture to let them know you need some an excuse to leave the dinner table or you need a hug.
Drawing boundaries. If it is you are uncomfortable discussing the topic with specific individuals, drawing boundaries can be helpful. One option is to smile and politely indicate you prefer not to discuss said topic and to change topic whilst remaining firm about your choice.
If the conversation persists, it is socially appropriate to let them know you will move away from the conversation as a result.
For example, “I don’t feel comfortable talking about this right now, and if we have to keep talking about my love life, I’m afraid I have to leave this conversation.”
What matters to you. Keep in mind what matters for you. What brings you to the party when you know there are some awkward conversations you rather not have? Is it the one friend or family that you have not seen for a whole year? Whatever that may be, keep your focus on them.
If you would like to have a conversation further on how to navigate this, or to improve your mental health and would like to engage with one of our clinicians to support your journey in flourishing, please contact us at Prosper Health Collective for further information on 6381 0071.
