Year 12 exams can be one of the most stressful times in a teenager’s life — and for parents and caregivers too. As a psychologist, I often work with families navigating this period, and the good news is that there are some simple, evidence-based strategies parents can use to support their teen’s wellbeing, focus, and confidence.
Here are four key tips to keep in mind during exam season:
1. Create a Calm and Predictable Home Environment
Stress has a way of spreading. If the atmosphere at home feels anxious, your teenager is likely to absorb that tension. Try to keep daily routines predictable, reduce conflict where possible, and use encouragement instead of pressure. Little things — like minimising noise when they’re studying or keeping family life running smoothly — can help your teen feel grounded.
2. Normalise Rest, Exercise, and Downtime
A common myth amongst Year 12 students is that they need to spend every waking moment studying. In reality, research consistently shows that regular breaks, physical activity, and adequate sleep improve focus, memory, and overall performance. Encouraging your teenager to take short study breaks, go for a walk, or listen to music can actually boost their effectiveness, calm their nerves, and ensure they are still leading a fulfilling life around the pressure of year 12.
3. Focus on Effort, Not Just Outcomes
Many students feel pressure to achieve specific results or ATAR scores, which can create overwhelming stress. As a caregiver, one of the most powerful things you can do is shift the focus away from just the grades. Praise effort, persistence, and progress — these are qualities that build resilience not just for exams, but for life. Let your teen know you value their determination and hard work over the end number, and reassure them that their worth is not defined by their academic results.
4. Encourage Open Conversations
Instead of leading with “Have you studied enough?” try questions like: “How are you feeling about everything right now?” or “What would feel most supportive to you today?” This kind of open-ended check-in takes the pressure off and shows your teen that you see them as a whole person, not just a student sitting exams. Sometimes they may want to talk, and sometimes they won’t — the important thing is letting them know the door is open when they’re ready.
Year 12 exams are important, but they are just one chapter in your teenager’s story. By providing a calm environment, supporting balance, validating effort, and keeping communication open, you can reduce stress and help your teen approach this season with greater resilience.
Remember: your support matters more than you think, and often it’s your calm presence — not extra study notes — that makes the difference. If you or your child need extra support, contact us